Positive Thinking

My number one priority

positive thinkingPositive Thinking – The most important thing for me is to feel good every moment of every day.

Whatever the situation, you have complete control your thoughts. How you deal with the situation will determine how you feel. It is up to us to choose the thoughts which make us either feel down and depressed or feel good, vibrant, enthusiastic and full of energy. In addition to feeling great, you’ll start to attract positive people, events and circumstances to flow into your life.

By changing the way I viewed the world, I had changed my life from the constant feeling of frustration, anger and negativity, which led to poor health and wealth. To now living joyously everyday and receiving everything I ever dreamed of.

Simple technique to switch negative thoughts into positive thoughts

A technique I discovered to feeling joy and happiness every day is by learning how to control my thoughts to see the positives in everything. If a non-pleasant situation arises and I notice myself rehearsing a negative thought over and over again, I would

consciously stop the destructive thought, have a think about the situation and ask myself “what is good about this situation or what could be good about it”. Now imagine the situation playing out the way you want it to play out. With that newly created positive scenario in your mind, the next time that same negative thought arises, replace it with the positive scenario you had created.

This technique will take time and a lot of practice to master. Initially, it was extremely hard for me to reach for a good feeling thought when I’m caught up in a negative situation. But once I got the hang of consciously directing my thoughts to the positive aspects, the daily worry in my mind shifted from the majority of thoughts being negative to almost all thoughts being positive.

A negative mindset

Being a refugee, there were plenty of rough experiences in my early childhood, which when reflecting back, was really a blessing as they were triggers for all my resilience and personal growth.

I still have a vivid memory of what had triggered my negative to positive outlook. I was lying in bed with tears rolling down my face, beating myself up with the usual questions running through my mind such as “why don’t my parents love me”, “why are we so poor”, “why aren’t I smart enough”. I was down to say the least. Almost dosing off to sleep with the thought of having nothing to live for, a new thought popped in to my head seemingly out of nowhere saying “Hey, you’re lucky to even be alive so make the most of the life you’ve been given!”. With that thought, I am now sitting up on my bed, recalling two near death experiences.

First when I was 9 months old I almost died from a severe case of diarrhea which lasted for weeks. It was so severe that my parents, family and friends all gathered around saying their good byes. I even had a little coffin made for me as I was all skin and bone, not able to keep anything down as anything I ate or drank went straight through me. With probably just a few days remaining, my step-father had made contact with a person who he knew that had worked at a hospital. He was able to bring home medication which immediately put a stop to my illness, therefore saving my life.

Second near miss was when I was 6 yrs old, playing outside on the street with the neighbour’s son. Both of us were simply playing on the street without a care in the world, when a man approached us in his car and asks for help to reach into the back of his van as he said he was too big to fit. Innocently, we looked at each other and both started to climb in the car. We had stopped in our tracks when we heard my friend’s mum frantically banging and screaming, shouting ‘Get out! Get out!’ The man was startled and drove off quickly. Another few seconds and we both may have been statistics.

A shift in mindset

With that last thought of feeling lucky to be alive, I felt relaxed, grateful and happy as I drifted off to sleep. When I woke up the next day still holding that feeling of being grateful to be alive, the world around me seemed very different. When I stepped outside, the grass was vibrant and lit up a bright green colour. I noticed sun rays shinning through the gently moving leaves of a small tree. My spatial awareness expanded from the usual 1 meter radius, to as far as the eye can see. Life couldn’t be any better than this peaceful moment in time I thought to myself.

Then it dawned on me.. how is it possible that I could feel so much happiness, joy and appreciation whilst my circumstances around me remained the same. I still had no money and was still living in the same commission home. Nothing on the outside had changed but on the inside I felt completely different. I came to realise that life is what you make it, but more importantly, life is what you think it.

A learning opportunity in every challenge

I now truly believe there are good reasons for seemingly bad situations or events that come into our lives. They are there for us to learn from and grow to better ourselves.

Take a look back on your life and recall a ‘bad’ situation that you had to overcome, then ask yourself…
Had it made me stronger as a person?
Had it prompted me to take action or motivated me to go down a different path which turned out for the better?

I bet you had answered Yes for both.

The next time you are faced into a challenging situation, know that there are endless possibilities and that you WILL learn and grow from this experience and become a better person for it 🙂


6 comments to “Positive Thinking”

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  1. kathyjoyce - October 12, 2015 at 9:54 pm Reply

    I enjoyed reading your very moving story, and it sounds like you’ve been through a lot.

    I also used the power of thought with visualisation after suffering a stroke last year. I imagined myself driving, and doing daily household chores, and although my left hand still isn’t working as it should, I am driving a manual car and achieved a great recovery. Holding onto negative thoughts and beliefs will only draw them closer.

  2. Mark Brewer - September 5, 2015 at 11:35 am Reply

    Wow, that’s quite a personal story you reveal there.
    Congratulations on staying positive throughout those traumatic times when many would have given into despair.
    ‘Life is what you think it’, I couldn’t agree more. Whilst I had my fair share of troubles in my younger years which certainly stayed with me well into my adult life, just like you I decided to find the things in life I could be grateful for. There is a quote by David James Lees that I feel is well worth remembering, “Be mindful of your self talk. It’s a conversation with the universe.”

    The words and conversations I used to have in my mind were always of lack and sadness and how much I wanted to change my life. I thought by telling myself this over and over that I was trying to change my outer world. It wasn’t until I learned that these thoughts and self talk patterns were the very things that were keeping me stuck in a cycle of misery, and the only way to change my outside circumstances was to change my inner dialogue.

    Achieving a positive mindset can be a complicated and frustrating journey at times. I believe it is so much more than just trying to stay positive when things get tough. It is a way of life that involves slow and steady changes in all areas of your life. Positive thinking is the result of positive habits!

    Mark Brewer

    • Nha - September 9, 2015 at 8:47 pm Reply

      Hello Mark,

      I guess for me, turning my thoughts around from always thinking Negative to Positive was a quick shift as my perspective on life had changed in an instant. Feeling grateful for simply being alive was enough for me to release all my fears and worries of the World, and actually stop me in my tracks to start realising simply how beautiful life is for us all to enjoy. As a result, my ‘conversations with the Universe’ brought me unexpected richness in all aspects of life from then onwards. Coincidence? I think not 🙂

      • Mark Brewer - September 21, 2015 at 9:00 pm Reply

        Hi Nha,
        I think what you are doing with your website is admirable. There are plenty of people who need inspiration in their lives. The more we all do to help and support each other the better. It can get very lonely and answers can be hard to come by. Forums like this one and websites like yours are a great place to start. Once people begin to become more aware and accepting of their problems it is often the start of the way back to happier times. I shall be dropping by your website frequently!
        All the best,
        Mark. http://www.shiftingtopositive.com

    • J E Roberson - September 21, 2015 at 8:55 pm Reply

      Great post Mark, I think the focus on positive thinking is one of many paths to positive feelings. I have found positive thinking isn’t a tool that works for all humans. The truth lies in what you stated over and over in your post “feeling positive”.

      Through numerous encounters I have found not all humans can get to positive feelings with the thought path. Looks like it works well for you. I have a few other post talking about how positive thinking doesn’t work, all those who oppose that opinion in one or two sentences usually without awareness start to exchange the word thinking for feeling.

      I don’t think anyone can argue the results of cultivating positive feelings however positive thinking seems to be getting all the publicity and credit for its friend positive emotion or feelings.

      Here is my question based on your strategy to implement positiveness.

      Does answering the questions or the visualization create your shift or do they have to work together?

      • Mark Brewer - September 21, 2015 at 8:57 pm Reply

        I absolutely agree, positive FEELINGS are what matters. Trying to think positively without any real emotion behind those thoughts aren’t going to get you very far. We are all made of energy, the more positive energy we put out the more we tend to attract positive situations. I have no doubt at all that to become a positive person you have to work on all areas of your life. That includes mind, body and spirit. Positive mindset, eating healthily and meditation or yoga etc. Neuro science has proven beyond doubt that we all have the ability to re-wire our minds through repetition and create new neural pathways, no matter what our age.

        The answers lie in making these changes a daily habit. Over time the shift in our mindset starts to develop and become just a part of who we are. It took me long time to fully get this. I would try being positive for a few days but would then slip back into my old thought patterns and behaviors. In NLP they use a method known as pattern interrupt. It is vital, in my opinion, to have something to use that can pull you out of negative thinking as soon as it surfaces. A mental image of something or someone you love. Or a question that forces you to think of something that makes you feel good.

        In answer to your question, for me personally, visualization creates an instant shift. I have been using it daily for the last of couple of years. No matter how bad my day may have gone, once I’m immersed in my ‘perfect world’ visualization I feel my energy rising and I feel gratitude for what I’m certain will manifest in its own good time.

        Thank you.
        Mark. http://www.shiftingtopositive.com

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